Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Is It Right To Find A Date Online ?



People can still be hesitant to use online dating services. A friend of mine finally decided to try something new to change her love life. Since none of the conventional ways seemed to work out well for her, she agreed to let me talk her through a date in asia signup .

She still doesn't believe that anything good can come out of it, but we did spend the whole evening reading men's profiles and looking through their pictures,

Everything was the same old story  : shy guys have just one “selfie” picture, usually taken as a reflection in the mirror .

Another thing that we noticed  is that nearly half of these profile descriptions start with a detailed explanation of why they decided to try dating online .

My observations made me think a lot about why people are so ashamed of using dating sites. One of the obvious reasons that came to mind is that somewhere deep inside we all still dream of meeting that “special someone “ in a magical way.

Though we also know that happy ever after doesn't exist, we still want this first meeting to be somewhat like well, magic.

However, when you go online in order to find the love of your life, it is by no means unexpected or magical. You know exactly why you are there - you are searching for your partner among a gazillion profiles.

You can't make up your mind about whom to accept right away, because you don't know how to choose from all the registered users who messaged you.

Yes, sometimes these sites can be very disappointing; however, the advantages definitely outnumber the disadvantages.


There's nothing to be ashamed of , the world has changed. It is probably way harder to meet somebody nowadays, because of the crazy pace at which we live our lives , nobody wastes even a second.

If you commute everyday, you must have seen that each person is either staring at their cell phones, listening to music with their earbuds in , or simply lost in a world of their own.

It is tough out there in the real world and using dating services online is not a bad idea.

It's just going along with the trend.



Filling Out An Online Dating Profile



What used to be a  shameful stigma attached to meeting a man online is gone, To those who still think that meeting your partner via your partner is embarrassing, unromantic, or the last resort: it’s about time to leave the past behind and welcome to the new world. The world of online dating.

But does online dating really work?

For me, there was only one way to find out.

So,I created an online profile, which took more time, thought, and energy than I expected.

With a can of coke and chips in hand, I then started my dateinasia signup , and filled out as much information as I can, with the intent of making my profile as real as possible.

Just picking the right photos took almost an hour , and creating the tag line and profile description took even longer.

As I wrote, I heard the critical voice in my head telling me that I was making myself sound boring and no one would ever be interested in me.


Then I moved on to what to say about my job . I did not want to mention even the slightest hint of the fact that I’m a part-time writer anywhere on my profile.

As a writer who writes very personal and honest essays, the last thing I want a prospective date to ask me is, “So, what do you write?”

I couldn’t say, “ Well, there’s this article I wrote regarding  “ The brutal truth about penis enlargers”.

That would definitely scare them away.

The deeper I got into the process, the more I realized that I wanted to find a man online.

So, I took careful consideration in filling out what I wanted and needed in a partner , and height was the least of it.

Standing at 5’2 on my bare feet, I was confident that I would not have difficulty finding matches in a site dominated by tall white males.

Reading over my completed profile, I felt happy with it and satisfied, like I’d done what I’d set out to do It wasn’t the most amazing profile and I wasn’t the most exciting, adventurous  person on the internet. My profile was quiet and subtle, authentic and funny giving just a glimpse of who I truly am.

Monday, July 29, 2013

The Crazy Things You Do When Nobody's Looking

“Isla , come here a minute “.It was a guy I fondly called “Bossing” , my security guard friend , calling me .

I have worked the night shifts in that office for a while now, doing customer service for an Asian dating site.

He motioned me over to his desk where there were about a dozen surveillance monitors , showing different entry and exit points in the building .

I stared at one screen and saw something that made my heart skip a beat It was unmistakably my coffee mug.

“Omg , that’s my workstation”. The camera was aimed right at my desk which was situated near the entrance door.

I suddenly tried to recall the number of times I hid crumpled paper , junk food wrappers , soda cans , cigarettes , tissue , make-up,  and all kinds of junk behind my desk .

I can even recall logging into my date in asia.com   account , checking out who messaged me and what-not , removing my shoes , adjusting my bra, and doing God knows what else.

 I might even have picked my nose and stuck the booger under the table, when I ran out of tissue paper .

“Bossing “, tell me what crazy shit you’ve seen me doing ? ”

He just grinned and said ” I like it when you remove your shoes , hike up your skirt and put lotion all over your feet up to your thighs.

And he was right. It is like a daily ritual for me, while having my usual cup of coffee, I would massage my feet before starting my day at work.

I hope I was wearing nice undies that time ! Haha !

And to this very day, I still wonder why they haven’t placed a trash bin underneath my desk.

What To Do On A First Date With An Asian Girl



You’ve found your perfect dateofasia dream girl and you’re wanting to take her out on your first date, but before you do anything stupid that may scare her away, here are a few things to keep in mind :

A few hours before the date , do something that relaxes you . Exercise, read, sing in the shower, whatever puts you in a happy mood.

Do not wear strong perfume. It may be offensive to her , and she may remember you not because of the time she spent with you , but because of that strong, smelly perfume.

Wear a nice pair of shoes . Please take note, Asian ladies are generally shy and may not, at first , look you in the eye .Thus, they may look down most of the time, and will notice what shoes you’re wearing , or if you’re wearing nice, clean socks .

Make a list of conversation starters .Ask her questions about her pet , taste in music, good movies she’s watched lately, favorite thing to do outdoors. Do not ask her what type of men she likes , because she might think you are disrespectful . Remember, Asian women do not talk about men because they think it is cheap, and unladylike.  Remember these and read the front page of the newspaper, too.

Choose someplace that will be special to your date. If you're not sure what  she will like, ask her. You may want to take her out to eat someplace unique and out of the ordinary (no McDonald’s on Kenny Roger’s please, that will only leave a bad taste in her mouth , literally).

Greet  her with a small gift. For example, a small box of chocolates or a single rose. This is even better if you know what types of flowers or candies your date's favorites are. Never do anything big on the first date. Save some of the surprises on your future dates ( if there will be any ).

The rule of thumb is that you pay for the date . If you don’t , your Asian lady may think that you are scrimping on her, and may feel that she is not worth a buck.

Ask questions about the life of your date. Listen to her talk and do not overtalk.

If you are confident that you have a sense of humor and intelligence, make her laugh.
Asian women love to laugh and are generally happy. They like to keep their drama to themselves.

Pay your date compliments . Tell her how nice she looks , and what a pretty outfit she’s wearing , but do not say anything insincere like “ Oh I love the print on that dress you’re wearing, while staring at her breasts” .

And lastly, do not, by any means, kiss her without her permission because |Asian ladies are very conservative .You  might just end up with a nice , big  slap on the face , or a glorious black eye.

Sunday, July 28, 2013

Working Girl



"Congratulations, Isla! You are hired ! " the HR manager said. I couldn't believe it ! I did it !! I was ecstatic ."Please come back tomorrow at 9 am for your pre- employment briefing , and welcome to datesofasia.   

I half-ran, half-danced through the imposing glass doors..I needed to smoke .I rummaged through my bag for a cigarette and lit one .I was inhaling the smoke deeply into my lungs .I needed to call someone .

My hands were trembling when I dialed his number ."Jet , I got hired ." .I said .

"That's wonderful sweety , I'm so proud of you." he replied ..

I was already walking outside the company gates and continued talking to him .All those months of hard work and practice paid off .I had trained very hard perfecting my English communication and writing skills to get the job I had been hoping for , a blog writer  for an Asian Dating Site.

"Jet, you can tell your mom that I'm not only good for doing laundry and washing dishes. I can be whatever I want to be , only if I work very hard for it .


"He didn't reply..The tears that were threatening to fall were falling freely now ..I was walking along the road , talking on the phone , and crying like a baby..

"You will have to tell her that, sweety. She wants to see you . She is very ill "he said .

"Jet ,I hope you understand that I don't ever wanna see her , or speak to her again , after all the things she has said and done to me ". Flashbacks of his mom, with a kitchen knife in hand made me feel very weak.

I didn't like where the conversation was heading ..


By that time, I had already reached the main gate of the business park , where the companies were located .I was out on open road now , traffic, people, dust and smog .I could barely hear his voice on the phone ."

Jet , I need to go now , I can barely hear you ". I had raised my voice up a notch , amidst the noise of traffic , and throngs of people .

"Ok. I'll call you later "he repiled. "Meanwhile, you go out and celebrate .Treat yourself .Reward yourself  for a job well done",he said.

I had disconnected the call and was walking by the side of a busy road .Thinking and remembering what had transpired in the past. The events that made me leave that place so hastily .To leave the man I loved .I suddenly didn't feel like celebrating at all. I just wanted to go home , lie down, and cry .

I was mindlessly crossing the road , when I saw a yellow car speeding toward me .

It was moving too fast, I froze..I just stood there, transfixed , horrified .

And the last thing I heard was a girl scream before I blacked out.

Safety Tips For Online Dating



After you have sucessfully registered on date of asia.com , it is important to practice several safety tips for dating online. This ensures that you can enjoy the excitement of dating, while protecting yourself from any potential perils or losses.

Filter the  personal information that you give out . This includes your last name, home address, work address, phone numbers, and other personal information.

Never purchase anything from someone else. Also, never give out your social security number and other sensitive information

Only meet with someone once you feel comfortable with that person. You should always choose a first meeting spot that is a public place. For example, a public park, a restaurant or a coffee shop are ideal public places.



Never let someone you just met online drive you home until you feel that they are trustworthy. Always trust your intuition. If you take a cab, always take note of the cab’s plate number , and text it to a friend or family member .

Always bring your cellphone .

Always tell a few friends or relatives about your date beforehand. Tell them what time you will be meeting, the venue, and other possible places you will be going to.

Thousands of people have found their soul mate, special friend, or even lifetime partner. by joining date of Asia . Regardless of what you are looking for in a relationship, online dating can provide you with that unique and lasting experience in your life.

How To Find A Good Dating Site



Oh how we wish that we have a more exciting and rewarding social life,since much of our lives is spent at work, house work , yard work , and other obligations.

We do not get much time for ourselves, but when we do, we want someone to share it with.

Therefore, no matter how hectic your life is , an online dating site is the fastest and easiest way to meet  people who share your interests and hobbies.

As most things in life, not all online dating sites are created equal. There are certain criteria that you should look for in an online dating site. And so far, based on my research , date of Asia  is one of the most popular and wholesome sites that caters primarily, but not limited to , Asian women looking friends or lifetime partners .

If you look at the site’s physical construction it has no jagged fonts, no missing graphics, and it has a nice , appealing web front design. The website itself is devoid of clutter , making the site interface very user-friendly.


Dating sites that lack attention to detail may  also lack  safety and security features.

Always check to see an online dating sites affiliations. Who the dating site is affiliated with provides insights into what type of dating site you are dealing with.

Before you start your date in Asia registration , always view the sample profiles . Just remember that if the sample profile looks and sounds too good to be true, then it probably is.

Also, take time to read the site’s privacy disclosure or statement at the bottom of the page. That is one good indicator that the dating site is legitimate.

Saturday, July 27, 2013

Overcome Your Shyness.Find A Date Online



Imagine yourself at a party and you’re the only person sitting at the table who isn’t part of the conversation. Every time you attempt to speak , you get interrupted by someone else or even worse, ignored. And the more you try to take part of the conversation , the more awkward things get.

So you stare off into party limbo, pretend to be engrossed in your food and drink, and pull out your smartphone and start playing with it ( this is very common ).

No matter how shy you claim to be, and no matter how you would like to sit on the sidelines and be left alone, nobody wants to be ignored.

But did you know that the art of talking to strangers, is a learnable skill?

Through practice, you can go from a wall paper , to choosing your own adventure, by taking massive actions to meet new people. Get out of your tiny ,comfortable little shyness bubble and make that first move to meet people.

I used to be extremely introverted when I was growing up due to some social insecurities that I had back then. I could not even get myself to look people straight into the eyes and say “Hi”. Looking back, I realized that the reason for my shyness was due to the fact that I was afraid of being rejected, or laughed at.



But that has all changed now. I took a giant leap out of my cocoon and introduced myself to the world of online dating. I felt that this was the perfect medium to help me overcome my shyness. My goal at first was not to date. It was to meet as many people as possible. Where else would I  get one-on-one time with a total stranger without having to meet them first ? I then registered at www.datesofasia.com a free site that caters to Asian women looking for romantic or friendly associations.

And it sure did help me overcome my shyness. It helped me save the difficulty of having to introduce myself simply because my information is already published in my profile. It was also very convenient for me because I can browse through profiles of other members and find out about their own pursuits and interests. And the best part of it is that I can simply sit in front of my computer and talk to people at my leisure.

Since then, I have met a lot of interesting people , been to many different places , and has been transformed from a woodworm , to a social butterfly.


Friday, July 26, 2013

Why Are Good Girls Attracted To Bad Boys ?




Today, I visited a chat room in www.date inasia.com , one of the dating sites I am registered at , and I couldn’t help but notice that the men who talked dirty, who displayed very poor chat manners were the guys who got the most responses from women.

Is it because of the bad boy phenomenon ? Why are good girls attracted to bad boys? What do women see in these rogues ?

First, let me define my own understanding of bad boys.

There are the seriously bad apples who have regular run-ins with the law, drug-users , and those that get arrested for violent acts.These are the thugs and murderers sitting in jail cells all around the world  who are constantly inundated with letters from women declaring love and even proposing marriage .

And then there’s the mischief-makers who enjoy breaking rules just because they’re there. So they drive too fast, engage in risky behavior, and seek out danger.  The thrill seekers.

So here’s my take on this.

These girls had a father who was a little bit on the wild side and because these girls idealize their father, they may seek a partner with similar traits.

Another reason is because It’s always a challenge for women to reform an incorrigible man. Talk about “motherly instincts”.

Other women like the excitement, thrill, and sense of danger bad boys bring. This is especially true for those who have been “good girls” all their lives. So they’re intrigued with men who defy rules and shrug off responsibility .

However , despite the initial attraction, most women get tired of bailing a bad boy out of jail, wondering if he’ll make it home from a party, or catching him with another woman. And once the allure of a bad boy begins to wane, women will retaliate and give them the treatment that a bad boy deserves.

And how do these relationships usually turn out?

Very poorly, I surmise. Because bad boys will always be bad boys and they will never change unless they want to. And many women learn the hard way that these bad apples are not good to eat and that bad boys make , yeah, bad partners.

I was lost in thought when I noticed the cursor highlighted and blinking, signalling an incoming chat message.

The message was from one of the bad boys in the chatroom , asking me if I cared to chat with him privately.

" I'm not big on eating bad apples" I thought. 

So I politely declined his invitation and left the chat room.


Online Dating Sites. Why People Use Them



Many people turn to online dating because they simply don’t have the time to date in the traditional sense.These people use online dating services like the date of Asia website as a venue that allows them to browse through pages upon pages of attractive Asian ladies .In their search though, they may encounter some minor encumbrances.

Some of these people have different commitments in their lives, and online dating isn’t always at the top of their priority list.When you message someone ,sometimes you’ll receive responses right away and sometimes , you probably won’t even get a response. That means they may not have the time to answer every single message they receive in their inbox


Don’t let that discourage you. That is not a personal reflection on you. Please take note, these women frequently receive messages that are sexually crude or mean and nasty. Since most of these women are seeking long-term relationships, this type of behavior often causes them to interact only with the men they are interested in.




The bottom line is , dating may not be a walk in the park , but remember you’re still a worthy date for someone out there. You just need to have the patience to find that person.


Also, keep in mind that online dating can be discouraging because the ratio of males/female is unbalanced. Men hardly ever receive responses to their messages, while women’s inboxes are filled with messages every day.


Should you be rejected,  you should gracefully accept the harsh reality of online dating and not let it drive you to bitterness. Don’t allow discouragement to affect the way you interact with people on the site you’re using.


It may also be a good idea to send lots and lots of messages to possible candidates.


Remember, just like joining the lottery, the more entries, the more chances of winning.




Friday, July 12, 2013

How To Tell If Your Girlfriend Really Loves You




If you’re engaged in a long-distance relationship with an Asian girlfriend, who lives half a world away , you must be wondering if she’s really in love with you and not only after your hard-earned money. After all, you’re not there to be with her all the time and you maybe wondering if she’s not trying to pull a fast one on you.

You can easily tell if  she’s in love with you when :

She is deeply concerned when you rant and rave or confide about something .

She patiently listens to your complaints about work and the stresses of life and she genuinely sounds concerned.

She will make subtle hints about building a future with you in it.

She is  proud to be with you and can’t wait to show you off to her friends and family. She  wants to know more about you, your family , friends , work , hobbies.

She is  extremely curious, sincerely and profoundly interested in every aspect of your life, asking about your day, wanting to know everything about your childhood, your family, and things that happened in your life that made you the man you are today .

She likes to get in touch with you very often. You receive numerous emails from her all throughout the day in which the letters are filled with sweet words of love and affection.

She likes to talk and chat with you for long hours and never looks bored.

She may incessantly send you text or email messages non-stop, to the point that you may want to put her in your block list.

She may stalk your facebook page , asian women dating sites ,or any site that you frequently visit, following your trail all over the internet.

If you notice all these signs in your lady love , make her even more happier  and don’t let her wait any more.


 

Reasons Why You Should Date An OIder Man




Have you ever wondered why you see a lot of older men dating asian women , young, vibrant, and exotic asian women ?

Is it an innate evolutionary tactic for the woman to find the strongest, most confident man who can financially support her and provide for her and her children.


After all, what’s more attractive? Is it an eager, younger guy with the maturity level of a 15-year-old boy ? Oftentimes , these guys can still be establishing themselves in their careers and not only will they likely have less time for you, but probably less income to treat you dinner, the movies, and what-not In addition to that , younger men are rarely looking for a serious, long-term commitment (that alone puts me off, big time).
Thus, an older man always comes up on top of the dating chain.

There is no denying that there is something intriguing about dating a man who grew up in a completely different generation than your own. But why? At a basic level, an older man never gets boring. And just like wine, they get better with age...

Older me are usually financially and emotionally stable. They don’t have the childish issues that can plague a younger man. They have learned to overcome silly insecurities and have grown into a content , more secure  phase of their life.

And the best part of all this, is that  you  will still always be his hot younger woman. And he will continue to remind you of that, in every opportunity he gets.


Thursday, July 11, 2013

Online Dating

" Victor " wondered what he should type next. The cursor on his computer screen was blinking insistently in a blank white text box.

Above the text box was a chat discussion he had been having for the past two hours with a Filipina from his home country. Not having luck in the States, he resorted to date asian women he picks up from the various online dating sites.


Everything had been going seemingly well, until her previous comment. She seemed very awed by the fact that he lived in San Francisco , had a job as a physical therapist  , drove a Chevrolet , and still remembered enough Tagalog to impress her.

Although he'd never met her in person, he felt that he knew a lot about her due to the wonders of the internet.

From what he was able to glean from their prior chats, e-mails and facebook sharing, the Filipina was not only funny , but she also possessed a sharp wit, friendly personality and a steamy, passionate side that occasionally bubbled to the surface in some of their flirty exchanges.

Victor  had known her in this way for the past three weeks. She was the shining beacon of hope and joy in an otherwise murky and dark sea of his mid-life despair, where the highlight of each day was when he retired  to the living room couch and dropped off into a restless, dreamless sleep.

His entire life had changed for the better since he inadvertently stumbled onto her blog in an asian women dating site .

Inspired to say something witty, he posted a comment in one her more provocative blogs. She, in turn, visited his blog where she entered an equally cutting comment.

The rest, as they say, was history.Hopefully heading to a happily-ever-after-ending.

Or then again, maybe not.

He looked at her last comment , beads of perspiration forming on his forehead , and racking his brain as to how to reply to it --

"So, Victor , are you married ?"

A High Demand For Asian Brides



The number of asian women dating white men has significantly increased over the past couple of years. Here are some of the reasons why :          

Asian girls  possess the qualities that are most attractive to men.

In addition to their good looks , Asian women are also known for their high level of patience and understanding with their partners  compared to women from the West.

Asian women have a high stability and success rate on their relationships . They are  known to have a huge respect for marriage and this means that they put in exceptional effort to make it work compared to women of other cultures.


Divorce is still very much shunned in many Asian cultures and most of these attractive women grow up with the notion that marriage is supposed to last forever. They devote themselves to their marriage and always put their husbands and families first .

The kind of love Asian girls give to their partners is unmatched and almost impossible to describe. If you get married to an Asian woman , her loyalty is one of the things you can expect. They are famous for their hard work and the ability to juggle their family duties with their other endeavors .

And lastly, these women are known for supporting their husbands at all times and providing them with everything they need physically and emotionally. It's almost unheard of for Asian women to abandon their husbands when they face difficult times.



Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Traits That Asian Women Possess



These are some of the traits that Asian women possess.  

They are naturally slim, attractive , graceful, and very feminine

They are faithful and loyal to their men . In some Asian countries, divorce is not even an option..
They treat men like men and they like to be treated as a woman, not as an equal.
They enjoy doing household chores and do not expect their husbands to help them.

They are generally happy , they laugh at their problems . Anti depressant drugs are never heard of in most parts of Asia..


They don't care about name brand clothing or expensive restaurants especially the ones
coming from poor families , who they tend to be more appreciative and unspoiled.


She is low key and lives quite modestly, preferring to save money rather than live beyond her means,  very importantly, she recognizes the importance of honesty  in any relationship.

They are always responsive, loving and caring.
They choose a partner by his personality, what he is like inside, not by how much money he has or how handsome he is.

They respect the elderly.

They place great value on family , family ties , and their beliefs are grounded deeply in culture and religion.
Even Asian women who have migrated and have been "westernized" have these values ingrained within them.

The Asian woman make loving , doting, dutiful , and beautiful wives.













Sugar Daddies

Younger woman dates older man. This is an age-old concept that has been practiced for so long . In the days of yore , kings, politicians, tax collectors, artists, and other famous people have been known to secure women who are significantly younger in age as their lady-friends, courtesans, and some even become their brides .

Nowadays, they are called sugar daddies . Older, affluent men who are more than happy to shower younger women with gifts . And why not ? If they have the means, and if they are consenting adults , and for as long as it pleases them both , then they can date for their own reasons . The daddies get their arm candy , and the ladies get their goods.


So,  if you see those mature guys who date asian women , you probably stereotype them as gold digging leeches who are out to milk their older partners for every penny they've got.

That is probably not the case.

Because  if the set-up will go beyond what it was originally intended for , then age will just become a number . And the attraction will run deeper than what can be explained by logic.

Unbeknownst to them , it could be a match made in heaven. Younger women like men who can provide emotionally and financially. The men, who are visual creatures, will get their eye-candy and sexually charged younger women.

The downside to these relationships though will be that time and again, both parties will need to explain to others that their relationship is actually based on love and admiration—and nothing insincere.

So, to summarize , sometimes, older is better. With age comes experience, which is why many younger women will always want to date older men.

Monday, July 8, 2013

A More Affluent Lifestyle For Westerners Living In South East Asia

When you're a westerner living in Southeast Asia , you live an affluent lifestyle fit for royals  because the cost of living and basic necessities are generally cheap thus, your US dollar or Euro has more purchasing power.


You can party with your friends , get excellent customer service , and not worry about getting a ridiculously high bill because the cost is significantly lower than what it would be if you party in say, the major cities in the west.

Just imagine, a ten dollar tip would be equivalent to an entire day's pay of a waiter, hotel clerk , or service crew.

The  people all over Asia are generally friendly , charming , and happy. Even despite the face that these people have weathered rough economic times , revolutions,  natural disasters and calamities , oppression and colonization from the west , people still display  an optimistic and very positive outlook in life .

Interracial relationships are commonplace and widely accepted , and foreigners who marry , or date asian women  are well-respected and highly-revered.

As an added bonus, you will get the chance to visit incredible places that you cannot find anywhere else in the world - frolicking on pristine white beaches , backpacking across the mountain ranges  , or just checking out the ancient temples that are scattered all throughout the region .

Southeast Asia is an incredible melting pot of culture, religion , customs , traditions , languages and lifestyles to immerse yourself in .

And since these people preserve and value their traditions many of them still retain their rituals habits and practices, even though they have become slowly "westernized" . In the Philippines for instance, children still kiss the hands of the elderly as a sign of respect . In India and Burma , arranged marriages are still common.

Living in Asia means living a life free of debt . The high value of the US dollar and Euro means more purchasing power , more freedom to spend with less monetary constraints,and when there is more money, it equates to more power.

And the best part of living in Southeast Asia is it's perpetually summer, all year round. No long cold winters here. If it gets too hot and humid, you can always turn on the A/C and not worry about the electricity bill because hey, you can afford it. It’s cheap ! .




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